It’s been three months and I’m still adjusting on being a mom of two.  It was very difficult at first, I thought it would be easy to care for two kids. Your goal is to give the two equal attention, even though it is obvious that you need to give more to newborn. But it does not work that way. A toddler or preschooler would always want some attention, even the smallest you could give.

Ria loves her brother so much, no doubt about it. She takes care of him and tells him she loves him. But she is still a kid and needs attention, too. Our love for both of them is equal but we are attending more to the needs of JJ as he has a lot of demands as a newborn. And that is wrong.

But I am adjusting. It is hard but I’m gradually learning it.

On babywearing and breastfeeding

For our second child, I really wanted to breastfeed even before I got pregnant. So I researched and read a lot about breastfeeding. I wanted to make it work this time. So the hospital where I wanted to give birth has a big role. That’s why we chose St. Luke’s.

I am now on our third month of breastfeeding exclusively.  It may have been a struggle during the first month but we are already half of my minimum goal. Though we are giving multivitamins and iron supplement to JJ, I still consider him as an exclusively breastfed baby. We are struggling with his weight gain so we started giving him multivitamins and VCO. His iron supplement is for his low rbc.

I had no postpartum depression this time and I account it to breastfeeding and unang yakap.

I also planned to babywear him as there are a lot of benefits when parents wear the babies. I have a super shortie wrap and a ring sling. Breastfeeding and babywearing made me super attached to JJ that when I went back to work, I was the one who experienced separation anxiety.

Ria’s progress at 4 years old

For Ria, she has accepted her baby brother with love.  They have moments like they have their own world, just the two of them laughing and hugging.

Developmentally, she can read short and basic words and can add single digits.  Though we have started to teach her how to add more than 10.  She also received an academic achievement award during her Recognition Day.